Mistress K's Details-Ad for a Female Slave
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New
The Hunt
Sponsored by Bound By Desire
(Women Only!)
October 10-11-12, Austin, Texas
"The
Hunt is Bound by Desire's annual leather run. Each year we gather in the
beautiful Central Texas, for a weekend campout including safe, sane and
consensual S/M play. This
is an all-women's event.
We meet on
a large private campground with fishing, and accessible indoor showers
and toilets. Both tent and RV sites are available on a first-come, first
served basis. There is a 16 room bunkhouse and covered pavilion where
our play equipement will be set up.
Clothing
is optional.
This years
Hunt will feature a silent auction for great scene related toys and services,
a live auction during dessert for two really fine prizes, a raffle for
an extraordinarily great prize, BD/SM carnival games (with prizes!),a
catered dinner, and a few fun surprises!
We
hold a general membership meeting at 11:00 a.m. on Sunday.
Our S/m 101
seminar is held at 11:00 a.m. on Saturday.
Attendance
at one of the two 101 seminars held annually is a requirement of membership.
The highlight
of the weekend is The Hunt.
This is where willing submissives/bottoms and others hide in the woods until
captured by the Tops.
Play is then negotiated."
About
Me
My Background
My Basic Requirements
My
definition of a "slave" and why I need such a girl
Why is this search taking so long?
My concept of service slavery, and what a typical
day in service to me might be like
My Background
I
am a partnered lesbian woman, 33, who has been in the Scene for about 15 years
now. I am an active member of EROS
and Houston PEP (People
Exchanging Power), among other organizations and enjoy a good reputation. I
am in good health and am comfortable with my sexuality and content with my life
in general. I also have a personal page -
here. It will show you a bit more about myself, and what BDSM means
to me personally, and why I am seeking much more than 'free maid help' - that
is, why I seek a lesbian slave. These pages are merely a synopsis
of this search and an overview of what I am looking for specifically..
My partner, R* (a woman), lives with
me full-time and although I consider her property in a D/s -based relationship
with her, she is not my slave and is not collared to me.
My
Basic Requirements - The Standard Ad
This is the standard ad, variations
of which appear in several places: alt.com,
bondage.com, and
all sorts of other places that may or may not allow kinky language in their
sanitized pages.
This is whom I seek:
I seek a permanent,
live-in, service-oriented lesbian slave, 25-40, flexible enough to
kneel/move, who has references (of any type), is sexually settled
(i.e. not conflicted about being gay), intelligent, honest and
fun to be with. Smoking/drinking is OK IF she is healthy.
This slave would belong to me, and only me. IDEALLY, the slave
would be a masochistic 'boi' type, very driven to serve, and comfortable
in polyamorous situations.
However, a femme (though not necessarily "high femme") would
also be acceptable to me. I am open and flexible with whom the Universe
provides. Generally, intent and a service orientation are
highly important to me.
You think this is a simple request..?
No. I am very, very selective.
Since
beginning this search three years ago, my screener, slave linden, and I have
interviewed, screened out, called, faxed, arranged to visit and/or emailed over
220 applicants. Most of these applicants (about 90%) have been the clearly
unsuitable. For the remaining 10%, women who seem to fit the criteria, much
time, effort and money has been spent on this extensive search. Most of these
applicants are good-intentioned, but uninformed about several things, spelled
out in these pages. Please be sure that you understand all that I am saying
before you contact the slave who serves me as screener; the time you will save
will be gratefully appreciated by all.
My Definitions
Your mileage may vary! But this is
what _I_ mean by these terms in this ad and in my own understanding:
The difference between being a submissive and a slave.
This
basic distinction is one that is endlessly discussed, over and over again,
through newsgroups and web boards, in-person discussion groups and articles
in various fetish publications. I do not see why. To me, there are very clear
distinctions.
Although some will say dramatically that a slave may
be modified bodily or psychologically in any way that the Owner decides, or
may lose the right to her income and savings to the Owner (retains no financial
responsibility), I am not such an extreme Owner. I have an interest in keeping
my slave healthy and integrated well with the "real world".
In my opinion, to be slave is:
A serious
lifestyle choice of commitment, devotion, obedience and dedication
to someone whom you trust and respect.. not just because they
say they are a "Master"...
Often
involves real work, and isn't always fantasy playtime
Not an assurance
that attention and affection will be given you, even though you give
so much - you are not a girlfriend or spouse
Not an escape
from the responsibilities that come from being an adult (in fact,
slavery often increases your responsibilities, to yourself, your Master
and those she assigns to your care)
Not
a refuge from the truth about yourself
Not a way
to avoid thinking and making decisions
I also strongly
believe that a slave's Owner should not act as a therapist
and cannot heal psychological problems you might have (most often,
you need qualified help for that)
This isn't play. This is the very
minimum of what I expect and demand.
Why is this
search taking so long?
Perhaps you are one of the dozens
of daily visitors to this page - someone who has stumbled across it via a newsgroup,
or one of the many ads slave linden has placed on my behalf. You wonder why
this search has taken so long - so many applicants, and so many rejections.
This is typical of someone who cares about the quality of the applicant, as
well as the degree of "fit" of the applicant in my household. I don't
want to commit to someone less than serious - neither should you.
The best is worth waiting for.
Closely examine your attraction to slavery - be honest with yourself about
your expectations. Everyone interested in being or having a slave has
them; what you must ask yourself is if you are realistic and if you can
really attain what you desire.
Do you want to run away from your life as it is, and have someone take care
of you forever? There is no forever, and your responsibilities will follow you.
Do you want penance for a real or imagined crime from the hand of an angry Dominant?
Heal yourself first - and I am not an angry Master. Do you want unconditional
love? Love isn't guaranteed from your Master if you are a slave. Are you ready
for the work? Or do you think that you'll simply be asked to do labor if you
feel like it, and then it's playtime? Think hard about what it is that attracts
you to service slavery.
To me, slaves and submissives are
two different types of people: some say that some people are born slaves, but
I am not sure if I agree. At any rate, my basic definitions are:
Submissive
Slave
Someone
who takes pleasure in the act of submitting to another (sometimes
temporarily, or permanently).
A
submissive who is owned. Submission isn't always pleasurable, but
obedience is.
Possesses
rights of personhood, i.e. right to privacy, separate "space",
right to bodily privacy.
Possesses
no rights of negotiation, no rights to privacy, self-determination,
preference, etc.
Please note, that I do not object
to a woman entering service in me through being a submissive, as a test
period for the both of us. I am realistic and patient. However, owning a
slave is my final goal and endless game-playing bores and tires me. You
will be eventually asked to come to a decision or be released, should it come
to that.
The
concept of service-oriented slavery
This is something that has received
very little attention in the vast panoply of "slave types" written
about. But to me, it is a basic assumption that any slave will perform useful
services for my behalf, at least from time to time, no matter how specialized
or exotic they may be (or conceive themselves).
Service-oriented slaves, however, are a step beyond this. To me, these are the
cream of the crop. They enjoy being "useful", often giving or serving
before they are told what to do, and often exceed the expectations outlined
for them by their Owner. Many of them are workaholics and perfectionists. Often,
service-oriented slaves find different ways than conventional ones in which
to develop more perfect service, like taking classes in cooking, reading books
on household management, or the like. Books like the Miss
Abernathy series highlight and describe the development of this type
of slave.
I have little interest in a beautiful
slave who reclines all day on her mat, in shimmering chains, waiting to be noticed
and catered to. I have more interest in the kitchen-girl, stained with sweat
and her hair tied back, stirring soup or kneading bread - and smiling. I don't
care if you're beautiful, a little overweight, or ugly.
Intent and service
- those are the jewels in any slave's collar.
What a typical, actual slave's
life is like, and one specifically in service to me
It's
important to be able to distinguish from books and fantasy novels and what actual
slavery is like. Even though books like those in The Marketplace
series by Laura Antoniou present a more realistic picture of the immense amount
of work and sometimes sheer drudgery inherent to a life of true service to an
Owner, they're still fiction. Slavery means that you lose choice: most basically,
to decide how to lead your life - and that, most likely, your life won't be
a series of play parties. You may not even be physically "collared"
or marked, while in the meantime you prove your sincerity to me to earn the
privilege of the collar.
You may sleep in your own room; at
the foot of my bed; or sometimes, not at all. I will rely on you to complete
each task, whether it is serving naked in chains or making a sandwich, with
equal attentive mindfulness. What you must rid yourself of, first and foremost,
are preconceived notions of how your service will (or "should") be.
In addition to your own job (which you will be required to have), your
service to me will surely involve the following, similar to being an au pair,
i.e. :
+ Basic
housekeeping: such as menu and meal planning, cleaning, basic household
accounting (keeping a budget, balancing a checkbook).
+ Basic,
occasional child care (older children)
+ Formal
and informal attendance and service at local and national leather events
(I have a very active social life)
If it seems like a lot of work, this
is why they call it "slavery".. ;)
In short, the primary qualification
lies in the self-fulfillment that comes from the complete service given in a
D/s relationship. You should be driven by the spiritual intensity that is
derived from serving a Dominant. Your nature also needs to be as such that you
are not weak of spirit, but rather understand that the forms of submission are
decided by the Dominant, not by the preconceived ideals of the submissive.
Contact me only through slave
linden. All other emails will be ignored.
Other Links:
FIST,
Females Investigating Sexual Terrain
Masters and slaves Together
(MAST )
NLA-Austin
Consensual
Slavery Web Directory
Bound
By Desire (Austin)
GWYNN
(Austin)
Sisters
of Sin (Seattle)
LA
RAWW (Los Angeles)
Lesbian
Sex Mafia
Lusty
Gurl
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